The 7 Questions That Reveal If Your Relationship Will Last

Skip the compatibility quiz. Answer these 7 questions honestly and you'll know exactly where your relationship stands.

I give every couple that comes to me a modified version of these 7 questions before our first session. Not as a pass/fail test. As a map. Most people walk into relationships blind, navigate by feeling, and only look at the map when they're already lost. These 7 questions are the map. Answer them alone. Then with your partner if they're willing. The gaps between your answers are where the real work lives. --- Question 1: Do You Actually Like Each Other? Not love — like. The difference matters. Love is a decision you make on hard days. Like is an instinct that makes hard days survivable. When I ask this question, people laugh like it's a trick question. It's not. I mean it literally: when your partner tells a story about their day, do you actually want to hear it? Or do you tolerate it until you can talk about yourself? If you don't genuinely like them, no amount of love is going to carry you through decades of mundane Tuesdays. Question 2: When You're Wrong, Can You Say It? Apology scholar Jennifer K. estimated that couples who can genuinely apologize — not deflect, not explain, not justify, just apologize — have 80% better long-term outcomes than couples who can't. The ability to be wrong is not about ego.…

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