10 Red Flags You Should Stop Dating Someone Immediately
Most people don't recognize red flags until year two. Here are the ten that show up in months one through six, and what to do when you spot them.
Red flags are not dramatic. They are patterns. Patterns that show up early, repeated often, and explained away - every single time. 1. They talk about exes with contempt, not complexity. Exes who are uniformly monsters point to someone who externalizes blame. You will eventually be an ex. You will be a monster too. 2. They push physical or sexual boundaries early. Not chemistry - pressure. "Just this once." Discomfort with your "no" is a rehearsal for discomfort with all your future "nos." 3. They are cruel to service workers. How someone treats someone who cannot retaliate is the most accurate predictor of how they will treat you when they are tired and you cannot leave. 4. They never apologize first. Not rare - persistent. Someone who is always the hurt party is not having a run of bad luck. They are missing the wiring for accountability. 5. They weaponize your mistakes. You said something in week two that hurt them, and they bring it up in month eleven the same way. Not repair material. Ammunition. 6. They isolate you gradually. First it is gentle ribbing about your friends. Then it is scheduling conflicts. Then it is "you do not need them when you have me." This is not protection. It is insulation. 7. They are charming to people outside…
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